Some people can be just so callous...

[wee_mango]

...can't they? Especially when they are complete strangers, and have the nerve to say something hurtful to your face:

I do voluntary work in a charity shop run by our church and work behind the till. Now I usually need a calculator to help me add stuff up since I'm totally incapable otherwise and was never any good at Maths in school so basically if I don't have a calculator I tend to freak out as it somewhat of a 'lifeline'. Because of this sometimes I need a little help with adding up things especially if the shop gets busy or if someone buys a lot of stuff, and therefore I get a little anxious/nervous and sometimes my so-called confidence goes downhill...

And some people must think I deaf or something, well one lady in particular probably thought I'm completely thick, which I'm not had I not gotten pissed off and walked away after at what she told me. She came in and bought some stuff like you do. My mum who was on with me on the morning shift had to answer her mobile so the woman asked me did we have a certain item but I couldn't make out what she said so she repeated it and I still couldn't make it out (bear in mind that our shop is on a main road with lorries and buses going up and down it every so often and our door is open so people feel they can come in - a lot of noise obviously!). Then she spelt it out and I still couldn't make it out but didn't dare ask a 3rd time and I didn't think we had an item like that so I said ''Sorry I don't know'' to which she replied ''Oh well, you mustn't be very good behind that till then!''  O____O That comment just floored me and left me gobsmacked, thinking ''thanks for the encouragement...'' I got so annoyed that I practically yanked a plastic bag out of the bag-holder to put her purchases into. What else could I do? I could have swore/shouted back at her but since it's a church charity shop I very well couldn't could I??!! I made some mistake in the adding up of her stuff because the comment was still fresh in my mind and it had a really bad affect on me, left my mum to add it up correctly and very quickly went out the back of the shop and sat in the toilet for about 5 mins to try and compose myself.

When I finally came out, my mum told me the lady had said to her to tell me not to worry about it - clearly about the adding mistake, and had not mentioned the remark. I just broke down and my mum thought I was upset about messing everything up but then I told her what had happened whilst she had been on the phone and she was just as angry as I. So now I feel like I'm not smart/'good' enough or something to be working behind a till and I just didn't need that kind of remark today - I get enough shit from my 15 year-old brother who takes delight in commenting that I'm apparently ''overweight for your height''; I get that every day from him by the way, so now my 'confidence' has taken another blow...and I'm sick of it.

I mean, why do people do this? Is it just sheer lack of thought, selfishness or what?

Comments

[moo-on-you.livejournal.com]

*HUGHUGHUG*

i mean...are people thick or something?? you're working in a charity shop, voluntarily. most really nice,good people don't even do that. it's one thing to say that to someone working just for the money, at M&S or something, where they're trained etc, but to say that to someone in a CHARITY shop. le shocked am i. the cheek of some people.
*yetmorevirtualhugging*

and as from your brother....SLAP HIM.

[wee-mango.livejournal.com]

Thank you sweetie.

*hugs you back* :D :D :D

Brothers = idiots, no??

[sterlingirl.livejournal.com]

*HUGS!*

*kicks lady in rear*

Pffflllt! SOme people! I worked till for 3 years! People can be really, really mean. Especially at Christmas (good will and all you know)

[wee-mango.livejournal.com]

:D

Thank you :) The ass-kicking is very much appreciated!

*hugs to you*